Dad, Diane & Me, Aberystwyth c.1950/51

Dad, Diane & Me, Aberystwyth c.1950/51

So, what does it take to become a father?

Not much, actually. A few minutes of selfishness, thoughtlessness, and carelessness and voilà – A Child Is Born.

Congratulations – you’re a father, a dad. It’s no big accomplishment, really, since any guy can father a child. The bar for fathering children these days it seems, is very low, so low, in fact, that lots of guys bail over it without a second thought; and then THEY bail.

With Andrew Toronto Showroom Royal Worcester - 1976

With Andrew Toronto Showroom Royal Worcester – 1976

If there’s one thing the 21st century has tried to teach us, it’s that Dads are dispensable, yet nobody gives any thought to the kids who stare down the road wondering when Dad is coming back.

Ever been to an orphanage? They don’t think Dad doesn’t matter.

There is a unique space in the heart of every kid that only the love of a father can fill. Many single moms have done well but you’ll never meet one who will tell you their child didn’t need a father; or a dad, if you prefer.

Andrew Kyle & Bryce Flower Mound 1993

Andrew Kyle & Bryce Flower Mound 1993

And that’s why Father’s Day is so much more than a card with a joke inside. It’s not about the guy who brought someone into the world; biology after all doesn’t make a father, nor a dad.

The real father is the man who quietly steps up and lays down his life day after day, doing all those unseen things that say, I’m there for you; I love you; your needs come before mine; you are an important, valuable person.


Who thought you were the man for the job of being “Daddy?”  God did.

How many times do we often think, “I’m so blessed to have these kids?” And that’s true, but something else is true as well. Your kids are blessed to have YOU as their dad. God chose you not only to be a father, but to be the father of the specific children you have.

October 13th 2012 wedding

October 13th 2012 wedding

From God’s perspective, you are His blessing to your children. God wants your children to know about Him and He picked you out of all the dads on earth to make it happen. Read Deuteronomy Chapter 6 in its entirety and see how important God thinks you are; what a loving heavenly Father we have!

So, the next time you’re tempted to think you’re not that important – that you’re not getting anywhere, the next time you see an advertisement with a mocking reference to the buffoon dad, the next time you wonder if what you’re doing matters over the long haul, remember, God doesn’t make mistakes.

70th Birthday Macaroni Grill ..

70th Birthday Macaroni Grill ..

He chose you, Dad.

He chose you for His purposes and His plan. That’s one of the great comforts we Dads can take in knowing God. He always has a plan. It may not be apparent in those everyday moments that often seem unimportant but faithful fatherhood is a marathon, not a sprint.

Always there whenever needed...

Always there whenever needed…

You matter, Dad.

You matter because God chose you and you’re there, day after day, faithfully doing all those things that add up to being a loving dad. And that’s becoming an increasingly rare gift to kids, these days. Your quiet faithfulness however, does not go unnoticed by your Heavenly Father. If the only thing you do each and every day is to lift your children up in prayer, the promise of Jesus Christ is sealed in eternity when he declares: “But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal; for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” ~ Matthew 6:20-21

To all the Dads out there: Happy Father’s Day!! .. 😉 ♥

They're Coming To Take Me Away ..

They’re Coming To Take Me Away ..


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